It's been almost a week since my harrowing "You pretty, I pretty, we all pretty" experience, and I thought I would've gotten past it by now, but I've been thinking a lot about the events of that day and the couple of days after, when my friend's cousin (who also help host the supposed 'home party' which wasn't a party) passed me the free stuff I got for signing up as a member. For one thing, I was kind of peeved with myself for succumbing to the pressure of being around those girls bugging me to buy...even though Rm75 for the membership (plus the free stuff which was worth around 75 bucks too) is nothing compared to the insane Rm2700+ that the lingerie set cost (and thank God I DIDN'T sign up to buy), I still wish I hadn't been dumb enough to let them take even that 75 bucks. One of times when I wish I was as stubborn as my mum, coz' I know she would've turned them down even if they bugged her all day to buy. In fact, the next day (which was a Sunday) I wanted a refund on my Rm30 deposit, but found out that they had already sent in my form to the company in the morning to be processed. And once it's in, there's no refund....or so they say. For me, it's just more proof on how money hungry those vultures are. What kind of crazy company works on Sunday? And why did they send in my form when I hadn't fully paid up the whole membership fee? I asked them that, and they said they did it coz' they trusted me to pay up the remaining RM45. After all, the company is based on trust between the company and its customers...yadda yadda yadda bla bla bla. Right. For all I know they hadn't sent the form in at all, and they were just making up crap to get me to pay up the rest. I even thought of calling up one of my cousins, who's a lawyer and asking him if there's any chance I could get my deposit back since I had not received any products at the time. According to him, all direct selling companies should have a ten-day cooling off period when I can get refunds on any products I buy, after which there are no refunds. If that's true, I could've called up the company and threatened to sue their butts unless they give me a refund. But I decided that I didn't wanna be a bitch about it. So I just gave the money and hope I learned to be more thick-headed about these things next time someone tries to get me to buy stuff I don't want.
But I'm not only annoyed with myself, but annoyed with those girls, and annoyed mostly with my friend. I'm annoyed at how they were so willing to behave so fake and friendly to get me to buy their products. I'm annoyed at how they work on women with low self-esteem to get them to buy super expensive lingerie that probably doesn't work. I'm especially annoyed that they lied to me about one of the free stuff that I was going to get when I joined. They told me that when I signed up I would get some coffee that supposedly helps people lose weight, and what I got was coffee with extracts of ginseng and ginkgo biloba, but says NOTHING about helping people lose weight. Gosh, those vultures would really says anything to get people to sign up and buy. Not that I was really expecting the coffee to work such wonders anyway. Even if it did say it could help drinkers lose weight, I'd still be skeptical as hell. But it's just the principle of the thing....it really urks me to know people who will say or do anything to fool people so they can get what they want. I can imagine them all hanging around after the 'home party' (which isn't a party) after me and their other poor victims have left, cackling and laughing over the few more people they've managed to con. Or maybe bragging non-stop about how much weight they've lost and how they so wanna join the next beauty contest. Or maybe dancing around and worshiping an altar made of super-expensive lingerie and Dr.Diet drinks, paying homage to the god of beauty. Haha, ok ok, that's Carol's annoyance talking nonsense. But you know, those girls were so unrealistically enthusiastic about those products, I tell you, it really almost seemed like a cult. Irk.
Of course, the most annoying thing of all is the fact that my friend so willingly duped me into going out with her to 'catch up' and then dragged me this thing that I told her repeatedly that didn't want to go for. Not only did she abuse my trust in her as a friend, she did not respect my wish to not go, and she didn't bother to explain to me what was it was all about. Now I've been trying pretty hard to get myself past that and just forgive and forget. But I've never been really good with the whole forgiveness thing, especially when it comes to family and friends...the people whom I'm supposed to be able to trust. It doesn't help that I found out she was trying to rope in a few of our other friends by posting a bulletin on one of those friends network website. In read her bulletin, and it invited all the girls to come for a home party (which is NOT a party!) hosted by her and her cousin, but did not mention a peep about what the home party was all about. After that, I couldn't tahan. I wrote her a nice long message to taruh her kau kau for what she did to me, and what she was trying to do to our other girl friends. I said I was going to call up every single mutual girl friend we had and tell them exactly what the home party was about and if they still wanted to go, it was up to them. But they have the RIGHT to know what it's all about, and if she's not responsible enough to tell them first instead of just ambushing them with sales talk, then I will do the job for her. I also gave her some friendly advice on what her 'friends' at the home party were all about, and advised her that she shouldn't believe what those girls says about girls having to look physically good to be beautiful.
So far, she hasn't gotten back to me on that message, so I don't know if she hasn't read it, or she has read it and is digesting the contents. I don't know how she's going to take to it, but I don't think it'll be good. I sense that she's the type with low self-esteem and trying hard to fit in with people (which would've made her all the more susceptible to the whole "I pretty, you pretty, we all pretty" crap, since it would've helped her feel so good about herself). And knowing that she's probably that kind of person puts me in a bit of a conflict. On one hand, I don't want to have anything more to do with her because of what she did (I wrote in my message to her that I was not writing it in anger, so she wouldn't feel so bad....but now that I think about it, who am I trying to kid? I'm pissed as hell). On the other hand, if I do that, she'd end up feeling horrible for making me mad at her and thinking she's done something wrong. Which would make her have an even lower self-esteem. *sigh* It's so annoying when the people you don't want to have anything to do with are the people who need a real friend the most. Especially being a Christian, when they teach us about forgiveness and turning the other cheek and all. GrrRRrrRrrrrrr, wish God could've told us to do things that are more humanly possible....but then again, if the Bible didn't tell us to behave so differently from how we normally would, it probably wouldn't be from some divine source. Double ggRRrrRRrrrr....
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